I love reality television. There’s something about being a voyeur into someone else’s life that I find interesting. I’m dating myself here, but my fascination with reality tv started with MTV’s The Real World. Since then I have watched Survivor, The Amazing Race, American Idol, the Real Housewives series, the Bachelor/Bachelorette series, and quite a few more shows. I’ve recently gotten into Duck Dynasty (I’m fascinated at how this family has made millions off of manufacturing duck calls and their way of lifestyle). I’ve even watched the show Here Comes Honey Boo Boo — I admit I cannot pull away from this show; it’s like watching a train wreck waiting to happen…
So when I heard that WE tv was going to air a new show called Pregnant and Dating, I had to set my DVR. The show follows five women — Kiesha, Megan, Melissa, Shana and Rachel — who are single, pregnant and looking for love. At first I thought this was going to be another train wreck waiting to happen, or highlight men who have a fetish for pregnant women. My verdict is still out on the show; however, I was pleasantly surprised at the first episode. All of the women on the show are succesful women, who for one reason or another are not with their “Baby Daddy”. They don’t come off as party girls who got “knocked up” and are still looking to party. They all have jobs and are able to take care of a baby on their own.
Although this show is progressive, my one disappointment was that it did not have any single mom’s by choice on the show. All of the women know and had some type of relationship (no matter how brief the encounter) with their child’s father. It would have been nice to see the story of a single mom by choice and how she navigates trying to find love. As we all know, dating is hard! If it wasn’t, there wouldn’t be so many women who have decided to become single mothers by choice.
I can’t imagine navigating the dating world while pregnant. I applaud these women for allowing the world to see their journey. It takes courage to put your life on display and I hope these women find their Mr. Right.
I’ve read a couple of reviews about the show — some positive and some not so positive. One reviewer posed the question of why these women would get pregnant without being in a relationship with the answer of perhaps they were paying “subliminal attention to the biological clock.” Who knows why/how they became single mothers. But joking about a woman’s biological clock isn’t funny. Surely it was a man who wrote this review…
A commenter to one of the reviews asked why would a guy date a pregnant woman, and then went on to say that now the woman can have two men to hit up for child support — “the baby daddy and the fool she dates”. This comment angered me the most. Why must the woman be seen as some money hungry person? The majority of women today are independent and fully capable of taking care of herself and her child(ren). This commenter obviously did not read the recent Pew Research report that states that women are not only more likely to be the primary caregivers in a family, but increasingly they are the primary breadwinners too! It goes on to state that 4 in 10 American households with children under the age of 18 has a mother who is either the sole or primary earner for the family. This figured has quadrupled since 1960 and is the highest on record. The reason for this? It is more common for single women to raise children on their own — nearly two-thirds of the mothers who are chief breadwinners are single parents! Clearly these women are not looking to “hit up” a man for money!
Women are capable of doing anything they put their mind to. We are strong and resilient! So here’s to all the Superwomen, I mean single moms (be it by choice or by chance)! 🙂